Dealing With Your Emotions
A diagnosis of multiple myeloma or relapsed mantle cell lymphoma (MCL) is frightening, and it is normal to experience many different emotions when you are diagnosed with multiple myeloma or relapsed MCL. It is important to acknowledge that you are not alone and to understand that treatment and support are available to help you through this difficult time. Some of the emotions you may be facing include:
Denial
You may struggle with believing that you have multiple myeloma or relapsed MCL. This is normal. Denial is part of the grieving process. Allowing yourself the time you need to let the diagnosis “sink in†can help you gain acceptance
Depression
If you are experiencing any of the following symptoms, you may be suffering from depression and should talk to your doctor or nurse
- Feeling sad or empty or being irritable or tearful for most of the day
- Loss of interest and pleasure in most activities
- Significant weight loss or gain, or a decrease or increase in appetite
- Sleeping too much or an inability to sleep
- Physical restlessness or slowed movement
- Feeling personally worthless or having inappropriate feelings of guilt
- Inability to concentrate or make decisions
- Thoughts of suicide, or planning suicide
Anger
After a period of denial and sadness, many people find themselves very angry about their diagnosis. This anger can be directed at doctors, healthy family and friends, the cancer itself, or even God if you come from a spiritual background. This is normal and can be lessened by talking to a trusted loved one or counselor
Stress and anxiety
Cancer may make you feel afraid. Many patients fear pain, financial problems, looking different as a result of treatment, and death, among other things. It may be helpful to educate yourself so you can prepare for what may or may not happen. You have many options for treating multiple myeloma and relapsed mantle cell lymphoma, and this can help you worry less and be more hopeful
Guilt
Guilt is a normal emotional effect of cancer. You may feel guilty for the “burden†your family must now endure. Talk to your doctor about support groups and counseling, as talking to someone often helps overcome unnecessary feelings of guilt
Loneliness
A multiple myeloma or relapsed MCL diagnosis is a significant change in most people’s lives. You may not be able to do the same activities as before and this can lead to a feeling of isolation. It is important for patients to share their feelings and even join a support group where people facing similar challenges can share their experiences. You are not alone on this journey
There are trained healthcare professionals who can help you understand and process your emotions during this challenging time. Do not hesitate to discuss how you are feeling with your doctor or nurse.
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